Positive all the way

My workmate Mr. Silvam shares with me some thoughts this morning. He say:" If we are facing obstacles, do not be agitated. We should remain cool or take it easy." I tell him that all surely have problems either big or small.
He further say:" If someone ask:" How are you?", Please do not answer :" I am not good>" even you are not that good. Because if we say " no good ", our mind will ready become no good."
I tell him:" Yes, we have to turn all negative thoughts to positive one." He say:" Yes, you are right."
This is the short conversation between us this morning.
Mr. Silvam have changed a lot, I believe it is because he has more clearer mind than before.

The art of living

Blogging is ready fun. Through interaction, we all can learn much knowledge. My previous post attracted quite many comments.
One of the comments set us thinking. The commentator was Miss Timetthief, She said:" Do no deliberate harm is my first priority. Buddhists believe that our attachment (craving desire within) to witness or to be a part of specific outcomes, as well, as our aversion to other outcomes is the cause of unhappiness. In other words, happiness is a choice we make between our ears based on our attachments and aversions to specific outcomes."
Yes, we have to reduce detachment of many kinds because many attachments are ready not necessary. Do you know what type of attachment that we need to let go? Before we leaving this world, we have to ready learn the art of letting go....if not, we will be too late already.
Timethief said :" When there is a sequence to our thoughts, they have as their object either something pleasant or something unpleasant. If the object of our thought sequence is pleasant we begin reacting to the thoughts with liking that grows into craving, a clinging, an attachment. If it is unpleasant, we begin reacting with dislike, which develops into a rejection, a hatred, an aversion."
Wow, this saying is so useful. Reducing the comparison of many things is so important. Do not like all illusions ( like or dislike ) blind us. We ought to reduce our illusions in order to have ore peaceful life.
Timethief said:" The opposite of allowing things to be as they are is trying to change things to align with our attachments, and there are very few things we have full control over. Allowing things to be as they are is about choosing to become detached, yet, keenly mindful and living a conscious life in the now moment. That's what I endeavor to do but I'm not always successful.

Don Miguel Ruiz’s The Four Agreements was published in 1997 and for many it is a life-changing book, whose ideas come from the ancient Toltec wisdom of the native people of Southern Mexico.

Here is how Don Miguel Ruiz summarises ‘The Four Agreements’:

1. Agreement 1 - Be impeccable with your word – Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Agreement 2 - Don’t take anything personally – Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Agreement 3 – Don’t make assumptions – Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Agreement 4 – Always do your best – Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
Thanks for an opportunity to share on this important subject."
Timethief,
Thanks for the useful information.
Wow, You have lots of knowledge about many things. You also do your very best keenly mindful and living a conscious life in the now moment.
Although your endeavor to do but You're not always succesful
Your attitudes to change for the better are commendable. I need to learn from you to upgrade myself so that I can ready live the truly life.
I believe all can do it because this is all our thoughts. I now have the clearer thoughts than ever.
1. I learn how to clear away or reduce negative thoughts.
2. I do not want to harm anybody now. I want to have harmony with all human beings ans the nature from now on. Why? Because I want to have the sweet dreams. So far, I find it very effective and my life now is full of brightness.
We are the one to create our own destinies, this is the truth.
Wishing every blogger has the highest wisdom in life.

Clear all obstacles in life

Life is full of obstacles. In the family, in the working places, we bound to face a lot of obstacles.
Many people will feel down or worries when obstacles come. If we can not clear these obstacles, we will feel depressed and find that life is miserable.
How to clear all these obstacles, yes, we can do it.
Firstly, we must have the right mindset in the first place. What are the right mindset? My thinking is as follow for your reference.
1. Do not hurt anybody. Why? because of not hurting any human things, we can feel peaceful in our heart. If we can extend the love to non-human being like animals willingly, we will be blessed beyond our imagination.
2. Tolerance-when we hear somebody talking bad about us, take it easy.
3.............many more.
What is your view?

Encourage each other

My colleague Mr. Raghbir have changed a lot since he practiced Yoga. Before that he was a very hot-temped person, he liked to argue with people. He was very arrogant and always thought that he was always right. Frankly speaking, nobody liked him because of his character.
One day one of his colleague advised him to learn yoga to better manage the life. He then attended the yoga talk and became the member.
I am happy to see him now a different person. Yesterday he told me that he wanted to have zero anger.
Of course this is not that easy to have zero anger but I believe that he can gradually reduce it. For me, I encourage him and share with my knowledge to him selflessly. Through sharing, I myself also have much improvement on many area.
In this world, there is so many ways to upgrade ourselves. The goal of all faiths is almost the same. Life will be better if we know how to manage our emotion. Let's apply our wisdom in our daily life. Discard all the wrong and bad thought from today, then we can be ready happy. Time to wake up now because we have no much time left in this world. If we do not want to do good deeds now, then we are ready wasting time in this world.
What is your view?

2012 end of the world?

Recently, many people talk about the end of the world is in the year of 2012. For me, I think it is unlikely, do you know why?
This was the prediction from one particular tribe. According to their calender year 2012 is the final year of their calender. That means that there is no calender for them after that year because the world ended.
But it is just the prediction from ancient time. It is unlikely unless many people doing many evil acts.
Actually the solution is rather simple. I, you, he , she and each individual just do many good deeds, do not do bad deeds like killing, stealing, improper sex, telling lies, taking drugs or all other degrading activities, get rid of greed, hatred, etc. Then we have many more years to live.
Mindset decide our destiny in this earth. If people doing good deeds, then the positive waves can dilute the negative waves.
But if the negative waves ( many people doing bad deeds ) more than positive waves, then we all have to say bye bye to each others.
But I believe the world will carry on because there is still many good people in this world.
Do you want to do many good deeds or you want to do evil acts, this is your choice. If everybody want to do good deeds seriously, then we will be blessed for sure.
Any view from you? Do you still believe year 2012 end of the world?

Singapore national day 2010

Wow, time is running very fast, Singapore national day is coming soon on 9-8-2010, this is the 45Th anniversary.
These few weeks, I can see many planes flying on the sky. Many residents are putting national flags to celebrate.
Looking back, the small island went through so many struggles yet we still can survive. This is because of the hard work of both government and all residents in Singapore. In year 1965, we were separated from Malaysia, at that time many countries doubted whether Singapore could survive or not. The then prime minister said:" We will survive."
The undaunted mindset of the leaders and the diligence of residents are the main factor why Singapore can survive until now.
Although Singapore has no natural resources but we have manpower resources. Singapore is now the corruption free country. We always take risks and try new things and go globally with high confidence.
I appreciate all these and would like to contribute to my country. I just do my part doing my job properly.

Habitual problems

Yesterday I took MRT ( Train )home. I saw " reminders" inside the train as follow:
" It's not cool to bully. It's not cool to litter."
" Got fined. Gt CWO ( Corrective work order to clean up some designated places ) too. Now I'm a litterbug fool." " Do the right thing. Let's bin it."
Wow, you see! this is the good reminders from the enforcement body National Environment Agency.
My friends, with so many reminders, why enforcement officers still can manage to catch so many people littering?
I think this is the habitual problem.
If we all have right mindset, we should not litter. So, we wouldn't be fined ( few hundred dollars).
Remember few hundred dollars can be very big amount for poor families here.
So, we should do all the good things in life.
Do you agree?

Great inspiration

When I hear the news that Singapore's Table Tennis teams ( Feng Tianwei, Wang Yuegu and Sun Bei Bei ) beat world No 1 China 3-1 in the World Team Table Tennis Championships, I was overjoyed.
As you know China Table Tennis women team are always very strong that no other teams in the world can beat them for 19 year.
But Singapore women's team, ranked No 2 in the world finally beat them. Singapore had failed many times before that, for example they lost in the 2008 final and the Olympic final to the Chinese. Because of undaunted fighting spirits, Singapore finally become champion.
Just now I go to view the matches on Youtube, I can see how confident Singapore team.
Singapore's world No 2 Feng Tianwei, always want to be world no.1, her dream finally come true.
After the victory, the team manager said:" A lot of times, when we met them in the finals we lost 3-0, 3-1. But we kept telling them (Singapore players) that one day, we should be able to beat them....So, during the training, we kept drilling this into them - to have this mindset that we're able to beat them, because we felt that without Zhang Yining, it's one of the best chance to win them...A lot of times, some of them, when they meet China players, they tend to feel that there's a gap between them. If you watch today's match, you can see that Tianwei was even trailing in the first match. She was fighting for every point...That makes a difference, because....(in) Tianwei, you see the fighting spirit, and when she won the match, it really gave a lot of confidence to Yuegu going into the second match. She has also never beaten that China girl before..So I think that makes a lot of difference, because suddenly, they felt that, hey, the past doesn't count, that although we have lost so many, many matches, it's like a fresh start."
This successful story telling us that we can be success if we do our very best. How about get rid of our bad habits? The answer is we can if we want.

Cultivation is very very important

My young brother visited my home during the lunar new year eve. He has four kids age between 13 years old to 5 years old. Out of these four kids, the 5 years old son makes him headache. It is because this kid is very playful most of the time. This 5 years kid is studying in kindergarten. The principal of the kindergarten told my younger brother that the kid was so naughty and the school has lost the patience and hope. The Principal said that this 5 years old kid always disturb other kids like kicking, extending his legs while kids walking. The principal advised my younger brother to send this naughty boy to other kindergarten.
Hearing this, I told him that I might be able to coach him. These two days, my younger brother sent his naughty kid to my home, I taught him for three hour each day.
How to teach this 5 years old kid? I revised the student guide and do some planning work and I hope I can instill some good values to the child. My training was as follows:
The first day, I took out the student guide and we recited the first chapter together. After that I told him the ancient filial story about the child who was very taken care of the mother. I asked questions related to the story and repeated the questions again and again. My intention is to let him how the handiwork of the parents and we had to be the good kids so as not to let parents worry.
After that, I let him saw the DVD, the same story and again asked him the similar question. My intention is to strengthen his understanding on the good values.
The second day, I asked him many questions and let him answered. I corrected his answer if he had answered wrongly.
My questions to this 5 years old kid are as follow:
1. Do your father busy in work everyday?
2. Do your father feel tired after work? Why he is so tired?
3. What type of children are considered good kids?
4. While talking, small kids should talk loudly, softly or totally soundless?
5. Why we should not fighting?
and many other questions.
During the coaching, if the kid was naughty, I quickly wrote down his faults and told him immediately.
Surprisingly, I found the kid actually was so understanding. With my patience, I strongly believe he will definitely become the good boy.
My friend, if we can cultivate him at this age, he will be able to lead the healthier life later.

Joyful life

Helping others without thinking ourselves is the truly joyful thing in our life.
Everyday we should appreciate all people surround us whether they are good people or bad people.
If we see people quarreling, we immediately examine ourselves whether we still angry or full of hatred or not. We constantly change ourselves if we have any.
If we read newspaper about people committed suicide because of gaming. We immediately examine ourselves whether we are still greedy or have any gaming habits. We change it if any.
If people telling us that we're doing the good job. We immediately examine ourselves whether we're ready doing the good job. If not, we have to work even harder.
We appreciate everybody whether they are bad or not. We do our best to advise people who had dome something no right. We encourage those who have good habits, hope that they continue the good habits.
We do my best to put down our selfishness. We want to have harmony not only ourselves but others. We want to have harmony with all living things, nature.
All these make us joyful most of the time.
What do you think about the above-mentioned? Is it ready good for you?